Lessons from Oneida: Searching for Harmony in Utopian Dreams
Last summer, on our return from a camping trip to the Finger Lakes, we took a few detours to explore historic sites along the way. Upstate New York was the heart of the Religious Awakening in the years before the Civil War, and it is dotted with places where people gathered in search of a more harmonious life. One place I had long wanted to see was Onei, often referred to as the longest-lasting utopian community in America. My curiosity was simple: how did this group sustain their lofty goals so much longer than other, similar experiments?
Part of what drew me there was personal. In my youth, I, too, was drawn to communal living and utopian ideals. I lived in both an ashram and a study house, places where like-minded people gathered in hopes of supporting each other’s explorations and growth. But many of the communities I experienced didn’t survive beyond their founders. That’s why I found the Oneida story so intriguing. What allowed them to endure?

Visiting the Mansion House, as their central communal home is called, was fascinating but left me hungry to understand more. Today, I finished the book Oneida Utopia, and it provided just what I had been seeking. The book is a well-written testimony to the ideals that this group strove to embody.

Too often, the conversation about Oneida circles around the sensational, particularly the sexual practices of this Perfectionist group, which certainly set them apart from others. But there was so much more to their lifestyle: their experiments in shared labor, their collective decision-making, their efforts to live out spiritual and social ideals in tangible ways. These were not just eccentricities, but sustained practices meant to align daily life with higher aspirations.
Reading and reflecting, I found myself drawn again to that timeless question: how do we create communities that truly support one another in growth, balance, and purpose? Oneida’s story, with all its complexity, remains a provocative and inspiring attempt to answer it.
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